Being Magical: The New Standard of Beauty in Lagos
Embracing oneself, flaws and flabs, in an era of face beats and leg contouring has never been more difficult. Moreover, black women especially are constantly forced to question their own unique and complex beauty in a
Embracing oneself, flaws and flabs, in an era of face beats and leg contouring has never been more difficult. Moreover, black women especially are constantly forced to question their own unique and complex beauty in a society that has created an ideal beauty standard for women: tall, slim waist, straight hair (blonde in most cases) light skin, straight nose etc. It is this self loathing that a group of young Nigerian women assembled in Lagos to address in a project titled, Project Loving You: Setting New Standards of Beauty.
The event was an informal, interactive seminar with speakers from different walks of life who shared personal stories of dealing with physical ‘defects’ and inner insecurities. The event was spiced up with live music performances at intervals. MTN Project Fame finalist Pearl thrilled participants with Beyonce’s Pretty Hurts’while gospel rock act, Clay performed her Ogadinsinma, an Igbo word which loosely translates to “it will all be well.”
This message hit home as the girls literally glowed with a new found pride and confidence in their bodies during the closing photo session. In our effort to share the love, we leave you with three powerful tools for your personal journey of self-love.
Know Who You Are
‘Most of the issues we have with our bodies: nose, hair, dark skin, full lips are our heritage. They are what makes us black women,’ Ms Ekene of the thekinkandi.com said. Understanding that heritage and decolonizing our minds of Westernized versions of beauty is the first step to truly loving our selves.
Embrace Your Flaws
‘We all have flaws. None of us was made perfect. Teaching young girls and women from every generation to see the beauty in that flaw is what the GIRL journey is about,’ Chinyere Okoro one of the curators of the event said.
Surround Yourself With a Positive Support System
Beauty is beyond the physical. So when participants gave voice to their inner insecurities and fears, speakers and participants shared personal stories of their struggles with depression and how they overcame them – some using cannabidiol oil at stores near me. ‘I grew up without my mum, and I have always felt something was wrong with me but the constant reminders from my foster mum that I was beautiful and enough the way I am made me confident today’’ Oluchi of MunaLuchi hair blog said.